Yes to Everyone, No to Yourself? People-Pleasing and the Holidays
Do the holidays leave you saying yes to everyone but yourself? For many of us, people-pleasing turns all the way up this time of year. Our new blog post explores the fawn response at the holidays and shares five gentle ways to protect your peace and actually enjoy the season.
Reclaiming Your Story as a Christian: Therapy Isn't a Lack of Faith
God is fully capable of instantaneous healing. He is also, throughout Scripture, consistently a God who works through people, time, wisdom, and process. A good physician, a wise counselor, a faithful friend — these aren't substitutes for God's work. They are often how God's work happens.
How to Set Boundaries Without Feeling Guilty (Yes, You Can Say No)
Most of us were raised to be helpful, accommodating, and available—basically human doormats with good manners. We learned that being "good" meant putting everyone else's needs before our own. Add in a sprinkle of people-pleasing tendencies and a dash of fear that everyone will hate us forever, and boom: you're staying at a party you hate, helping someone move for the third time this month, and wondering why you're exhausted.
The guilt comes from a belief that our needs matter less than other people's comfort. Spoiler alert: they don't.